“We, as part of western society, tend to judge a man by what kind of provider he is for his wife and family, and by his financial success. Often a reduced value is placed on our lives because we are no longer active members of the work force. I believe acceptance of this thinking is one of the reasons we are so dammed complacent about poor medical care and the lack of research dollars for prostate cancer, and why so many men rely on their wives to speak for them.
“We must resist judging ourselves by the standards others use to judge us, and judge ourselves by a new set of standards for our life after diagnosis. I submit that a man’s life should not be defined by his job or occupation, but by his deeds. When talking about a man we should not speak of his occupation or income, but rather speak of his deeds and personal accomplishments.”