In aÂ press releaseÂ posted yesterdayÂ on Yahoo Finance for Baby Center, LLC., we (dads) are getting a truck load of praise and it isn’t even Father’s Day.Â Â It has been discovered that American dads are really getting into this whole parenting thing.Â Â According to the article it appearsÂ to be lots of dads of all races, not just the Mike Brady’s of the world.Â And apparently we got skills to brag about too.Â
But after reading an article like this I always have to wonder how many black dads were really surveyed.Â Was it 10?Â Â Perhaps 100.Â I’d like to think that we are well represented in the sample of 2000 people because thenÂ the study shows that we have hope.Â Â We get this dire picture painted of absent blackÂ fathers, deadbeat black fathers, imprisioned black fathers, unemployed blackfathers, and so on, and you eventually start to think that it’s a hopeless cause.Â I know it’s not, but many other peopleÂ prefer to write us off, and make us the butt of tasteless jokes.Â I’ve even heard that we don’t exist, or are invisible.Â Would Ralph Ellison write about black dads if he were alive today?
I long for the day when fathers as a group and us black fathers in particular no longer need studies to determine ifÂ we are doing our thing as parents.Â I’m personally quite tired of studies, and research, and theories on the our status in the world.Â
Nevertheless, the problem is that as long as there is a need for such statistics, there will be people out there conducting surveys and compiling data and writing depressing reports to explain their findings.Â Â
I can’t believe how people can put down Black men as father.That statement about deadbeats,imprison, unemployed goes for any man that don.t take care of his children regardless of his racial status. My father was the best,did not have a formal education, but was the best pyschologist in the world,he did not read or write,but he was a visiable,caring and loving Black man. Who worked took us to church,played with us, he was the second generation from slavery. all he knew was hard times. was treated as a non human by the system. So don’t put all Black men in the same category to what a few black men do. Black men is not perfect,all other men is not perfect.Black men are strong and a survivor.So stop singling all blackmen as deadbeats.Than yoy.