In my last post I tried to acquaint people with Aubrey Pilgrim, a great friend of the prostate cancer community and a tireless advocate, who died recently. I have been in touch with Aubrey’s family and told them people were asking if there was an obituary. His niece, Pam, sent me this, which is rather basic and does not mention Aubrey’s many, many accomplishments. Aubrey was a true Renaissance man. Yesterday Pam wrote me that the obituary that was published and posted here is an abbreviated version of one written by a cousin, and she will try to forward the missing information.
I am glad to hear about Aubrey’s large family. He once told me that his wife and children had died before him. And I knew that he had lost his beloved second wife, Susan, this year. So I wondered if Aubrey had any kinfolk left in the world. I am gratified to learn otherwise. And the relatives were apparently very fond of their brother, uncle and Grandpa (whom they called “Bud”).
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OBITUARY — AUBREY PILGRIM
(From a Mt. Pleasant, Texas, newspaper.)
COEUR D’ ALENE, Idaho — Aubrey Bassett Pilgrim, 84, of Coeur d’ Alene, Idaho and formerly of Mount Pleasant, died Monday, June 23, 2008, in Coeur d’ Alene. A memorial service will be held at later date. Mr. Pilgrim was born on June 23, 1924, in Mount Pleasant, the son of James Aubrey and Pearl (Storey) Pilgrim. He is survived by two granddaughters and a host of great-grandchildren; a brother and sister-in-law, Hubert L. and Edith Pilgrim of Pittsburg, and two sisters, Bertha Capps of Temple and Christell Newman of Willis.—————————————————————————————————-
Here is the piece that the Sunshine Monthly from the Methodist Home will be printing. This is to let people that they grew up with at the Orphange know so they can contact them.
We have also learned that Dr. Aubrey Bassett Pilgrim ’37-’43 passed away on the 23rd of June. Aubrey came to live at the Home in 1937, with his brother, Hubert Louis, and sisters, Frances Christell and Bertha Mae. Aubrey served in WWII and then became a Doctor of Chiropractic in the 1950s, but gave it for electronics. He worked for Lockheed until 1987. He wrote many books, mostly on how to built and fix computers, but also on prostate cancer – which he overcame. Notes can be sent to: Hubert Pilgrim, 401 County Rd 3318, Pittsburg, TX 75686; Frances Newman, 219 N Forest Dr, Willis, TX 77378; and, Bertha Capps, 1719 W Avenue D, Temple, TX 76504.
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(7/29) I am posting a poem I just received honoring Aubrey that was written by his niece:
In Memory of
Aubrey Bassett Pilgrim
A Life Passes
By Pamela Welch
A baby boy was born in 1924
To a loving young couple
Didn’t know what he was in for
That life was fragile like a bubble
His life was not easy
He lost family along the way
But he kept himself busy
Constantly learning along the way
He accomplished much
And loved to have fun
Dealt with challenges and such
Until his work was done
He had a kind heart
But always argued his point
He was somewhat of a bard
Always got the attention of the joint
He was loved by all
It might sound sappy
Among men he stood tall
And made many happy
Go now dear boy
You have earned your rest
You are entitled to joy
You’ve earned your heavenly rest.
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In case you don’t read the comments, here are two new ones from family:
Holly Pampell on 15 July, 2008 at 6:16 pm #
I am one of Aubrey’s many great neices and I find it so wonderful to see all the people he touched through his work and passions. He will certainly be missed by all of us! * I love you Uncle Bud!*
Josh Welch on 15 July, 2008 at 7:33 pm #
I am one of Aubrey’s great nephews. I want to thank everyone for such kindness and compassion during this difficult time. I know that Uncle Bud would be very proud to see the many lives that he has touched.
Idid,t know Aubrey, but do admire him . god bless you AUBREY
Aubrey will be missed by those of us in the prostate cancer community. He helped many of us with treatment decisions.
Gone, but never forgotten by those who knew or exchanged emails with him.
I am one of Aubrey’s many great neices and I find it so wonderful to see all the people he touched through his work and passions. He will certainly be missed by all of us! * I love you Uncle Bud!*
I am one of Aubrey’s great nephews. I want to thank everyone for such kindness and compassion during this difficult time. I know that Uncle Bud would be very proud to see the many lives that he has touched.
A am fortunate to have exchanged a number of emails with Aubrey since my cancer diagnosis in 06. He was ever the grateful optimist and encourager.
He modeled for me how I reach out to other men with prostate cancer. Thanks Man!
I want to thank all of you that have posted wonderful comments and condolences for my Uncle Aubrey(Bud)Pilgrim. Rest assured that all have been forwarded or copied for extended family members. I want to extend a extra thanks to the wonderful lady who helped us make contact with all of you and did a wonderful job of informing us and informing all of you. We will miss our Uncle but thanks to all of you we know more about his life with all of you. We love you Uncle!
It is a huge loss to see my great Uncle Bud go. It is because of him that my brother mom and I even know how to use computers. I hear his grand daughters are having trouble getting into his computer. That would be just like him to leave behind a puzzle for us to fix and learn in the process. I only got to see him once a year, and talk through email and he was much like a college professor to me. Always arguing and picking my brain. He made me work to defend my arguments with documented proof. I love him for that and will miss him always.
Although I did not know Aubrey personally, I always appreciated his comments on calorie restriction science. He was sensitive and thoughtful and Meredith and I loved him from afar as we do our CR brothers and sisters. It made us cry to read this.
I conversed with Aubrey many times by email, and was impressed with his broad base of knowledge. He had a way of bringing out salient points often overlooked.
Although I never met him personally, I felt he was a friend, and I his thoughtful comments.
Godspeed, Aubrey.
I recently learned of Aubrey’s passing, and mourn the loss. Aubrey was a wonderful contributor to the CR community. His lovely personality brought me many smiles.
Bud, as I knew him was my Grandfather. My father and mother had a very rocky relationship so I was around my Grandfather when I was younger but not as much as I got older. We had our differences in opinions, but I always admired him and what little time we got together I cherrished emmensly. I am saddended that because of differences in the family I never got to spend the time I wished I could have with my Grandfather and never got to meet my family, The Pilgrims. I will always hold the wonderful memories I have of him growing up and the chances we got to meet. I have learned so much more about him through research on the internet.
Bud was my uncle and up until I was about 11 my brother Christopher, sister Jaimie and I used to spend a lot of time with Uncle Bud and Aunty Da, Da was my Mum’s, Joan Kissling’s( Gakindo) . Bud used to give my brother and I paper bags of saw dust and bent nails as “presents” (To bug my Mum) as we wouldn’t let her throw them out as thay were presents from Uncle Bud. I remember Bud as an avid gardener, he bought the block next door and grew strawberries, apricots almonds and all sorts of vegetables. I lost contact with him in the early 80s, and I moved to Australia in 1985.
I do remember meeting some of my Texan cousins back in the early sixties when they came to visit Uncle Bud in California. I am saddened to hear of his passing.
I wish I could spell, Da was my Mum’s Joan Kissling (Galindo) sister