Of course there is plenty of room for more good dads. Saying that the problem of absenteeism and weak father/child connections in the black community and across communities is solved would be insane. However, I think that the push to convince the world that good dads exist is essentially over. You can’t look at the leader of the free world, Barack Obama, and wonder if there are any good dads. I try not to reference world leaders, celebrities, or super rich people with tons of resources when I talk about good dads mainly because I don’t know any world leaders, celebrities, or super rich dads personally. But I do know bloggers (and also dads who don’t care about blogging in the least) who love nothing more than spending time with their children and coming up with ways to make their lives more fulfilling.
I believe it’s time to re-frame the dad discussion. At the risk of sounding cliche, times are changing. I’m not sure if I can, or want to, keep up with the times, but for argument’s sake let’s say I do (is that my tongue pressed against my cheek?). What I would propose would be to look at dads through a wellness lens. As a whole person, not just some lame dude who can’t change a diaper without duct tape, who matters.
Each dad is a man first. He can have all kinds of pluses and minuses. He can be eight different kinds of jerk, or two kinds of jerk and six kinds of cool, or any combination thereof. But every time, no matter how you do the math, those eight parts will be one whole man who can be loved or hated or both or neither. That’s why I am exploring a wellness approach that considers the entire dad. I’ve always had more ambition than hours in the day, so we’ll see what happens.
2 Part Jerk to Six Parts COOL…..lol
Very cool blog, my man. I think that the Idea of the Black Dad, through Generation Y, is finally making a resurgence. So many of my friends from high school, all of us having grown up without fathers, are definitely making concerted efforts to be with our children. I, for instance, have been married for 6 years and am the proud father of 3. At 26 yrs old.
I don’t see myself as something new, but rather a return to something old.
Good Post, look forward to reading more. Be sure to check out my latestest blog “18 Years to Forever” on raising children in this modern society.
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