Our precious friend, Hugh Kearnley of Glasgow, Scotland, died suddenly of a heart attack on Saturday at the tender age of 56. It was a sad day for DH and me. I had wrtten about my special feelings for Hughie here in "Love on ADT: My Hughie And Me," and "The Kiss of Life." I [...]
Dear husband recently underwent 40 salvage radiation treatments (IMRT), and each time he had to lie on a table with a hard plastic "bodycast" resting on his nether parts, his tush exposed. The mold was supposed to help the computer target the right spots. Lucky for DH, his rear has been crafted to perfection by [...]
Recently, because of "Women's Equality Day," I have seen some questions about matriarchal societies. Do they even exist? The Dutch naturalist Frans de Waal believes they do: He cites our close relatives, the bonobos, as an example. Talking about our oversexed cousins is always fun. But people are starting to challenge de Waal's research. There [...]
Also on the subject of "Women's Equality Day": There are three things I learned online in the past year. 1) Women like sex. (2) Old people have sex (in the paper last week); and (3) Men are nicer than we think. Nurturing, for example. My husband gave me a poem that had been published in [...]
We need to talk about sex. That's never easy, but this is an emergency: A professor and long-time PC patient I've spoken to who is familiar with research about sex and prostate cancer told me that *50% of the time* couples will incur serious damage to their marriag after the man has had treatment for [...]
It's time for some weekend humor. I have been spending so much time scribbling in other venues that I don't have time to write here. Doesn't make sense, really. If you're giving away the milk, nobody wants the cow. But I have allegiances to the the PC community a whole, and I'm not about to give that up. Anyway: since I've been living in "Cancerworld," I've been having visual [...]
I trust that you are drinking your pomegranate juice or getting your MDR (minimal daily requirement) of the fruit in some other fashion. Dear Husband takes softgels which we get from Costco. And he also buys pom juice concentrate at the local market, Fairway, which he mixes with water and grape juice. Why? Because he says he can't drink it [...]
I was just reading an article by the eminent scientist Stephen Jay Gould called "The Median Isn't the Message". It's about statistics. First Gould quotes Benjamin Disraeli to the effect that there are "three species of mendacity, each worse than the one before -- lies, damn lies and statistics." But then Gould tries to make the case that [...]
A lot of things I read in the "Inspiration" category sound like a lot of hooey to me, but the following really rings true: Even when a cure is not possible, healing always is. You see, a cure involves our physical body. Healing involves that inner process of the mind and the spirit. There are [...]
When life gives you "lemons," what should you do? Make lemonade, right? Wrong! If you have any brains, you'll ditch the lemons, maybe in your neighbor's backyard. But suppose you can't possibly do this? Then, and only then, should you make lemonade. The problem with cancer is that when life gives it to you, it's almost impossible to unload on somebody else. So the best you can do is make yourself [...]
